How Thinking About Our-SELVES Can Influence Our Behaviours

When I tell my story of blowing the whistle on the CEOs of LeisureNet Ltd, I share how much courage was required to overcome the natural psychological conflict I experienced in the moments before speaking out. "I felt like everything I believed about who I was, my sense of self, [...]

April 13th, 2020|

How Conflict In A Team Can Interrupt Honest And Open Reporting Cultures

I’m placing this four- minute video right at the top of my blog as I want it to invoke your thoughts and feelings about how you hold yourself responsible for the words you use. As you'll see, ‘rapping on bullshit’ is dishonest and inauthentic, fueling team conflict which can spill outside meetings [...]

March 5th, 2020|

Why Is The Real-World Difficulty Of Speaking Up, Listening Up And Whistleblowing Being Ignored?

“One thing a person cannot do, no matter how rigorous his analysis or heroic his imagination is to draw up a list of things that would never occur to him.” Thomas Schelling Economist and Nobel laureate  Whenever and wherever I speak in the world, sharing my story and the teaching [...]

January 31st, 2020|

Would ‘One Bad Day’ Cancel the Courage of your Convictions?

Aligned with the song by Daniel Powter, Bad Day, most of us can get through one bad day. But how many of us can get through many bad days, many bad weeks, bad months or even bad years?  How many of us can get through them and retain our belief in a just [...]

December 5th, 2019|

Want to Speak-Listen Up? Anchor your Stress Response to your Value of Caring.

Are you more conscious than the average oyster? I hope so! When a few grains of grit get inside the oyster shell, the oyster doesn’t run and hide from the irritant. Nor does the oyster hire its litigation team or stress management team to spend millions trying to get rid [...]

November 1st, 2019|

Want to Speak-Listen Up? Don’t treat your feelings as Gospel; Learn to Negotiate with them.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. Marcus Aurelius Conflicts, failures and losses at times seem to conspire to ruin us. Yet, as Marcus Aurelius [...]

September 30th, 2019|

Everyone saw the apple fall. Only Newton asked Why.

Being uncertain about the answer to the riddle below may be a pleasant reward-anticipating feeling when you know this will be revealed, but will turn into frustration if the answer is missing. Curiosity, the emotion that moved the cat. I wrote a little bit about how my own insatiable curiosity kept [...]

September 6th, 2019|

Business cannot remain as a Bystander in a System that gives them Permission to Be.

British historian Arnold Toynbee concluded his 25-year study of 21 civilisations with the observation that “Great civilizations die from suicide, not by murder.” Toynbee observed that each civilisation—or cultural system—has within itself the seeds of its own change and destruction and that even the most prosperous and sophisticated civilisations are [...]

August 22nd, 2019|

Why Do Challenging Conversations Threaten Our Identity?

Most of my blogs are indexed to the reasons why I provide training for Courageous Conversations but I’ve seldom written directly about Courageous Conversations.  This blog is different. "Tough Conversations", "Challenging Conversations",  "Crucial Conversations", "Difficult Conversations" – there are a multitude of labels that suggest why communication can be fraught [...]

August 5th, 2019|

Want to Innovate, SpeakUP, Disrupt? You need Rebel Talent

This month, I’ve been humbled by being acknowledged by the Think: Act magazine as a Business Disruptor, Rebel WITH a cause and a Constructive non Conformist. What an honour and a privilege to be recognised this way, not only for myself, but for all whistleblowers. Click on the picture to access the [...]

June 27th, 2019|